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How Do I Say Hard Things Without Making It Worse?
On six guidelines for good form, and the real difference between sharing an experience and solving a problem.
11 hrs ago
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Dr. Rick Hanson
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Can Praise Be Just as Risky as Criticism?
On deliberately taking in the good, so you're not running on empty when the hard stuff comes.
Oct 6
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Dr. Rick Hanson
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How Do You Work Through a Hard Issue With Someone?
On eight specific steps for turning a conflict into real progress, from establishing the facts to knowing when to stop.
Oct 1
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Dr. Rick Hanson
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September 2026
What Am I Really Bottling Up?
On uncommunicative love, and the weight that quietly builds between two people over years of what's gone unsaid.
Sep 29
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Dr. Rick Hanson
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Why Are We So Stingy With Appreciation, Especially Toward Ourselves?
On filling yourself up on purpose, so you're not left running on whatever other people happen to give you.
Sep 24
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Dr. Rick Hanson
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Why Does the Same Bad Thing Feel So Different Depending on Who Did It?
On the difference between what happens to you, and the extra suffering you add by deciding it was personal.
Sep 22
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Dr. Rick Hanson
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Where Does the Right to Hold a Boundary Come From?
On privilege, entitlement, and the difference between earning a boundary and simply having one.
Sep 17
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Dr. Rick Hanson
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The Four Stages of Growth
On the four stages of growth, and why the people who matter most stay the hardest to practice with.
Sep 16
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Dr. Rick Hanson
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Can Setting a Boundary Actually Bring You Closer to Someone?
On the pairing of autonomy and intimacy, and why one supports the other.
Sep 15
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Dr. Rick Hanson
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Why Do I Feel Responsible for How Everyone Else Feels?
The bad news and the good news is that there's almost nothing you can do.
Sep 11
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Dr. Rick Hanson
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Why Do You Always Feel Smaller After Talking to Certain People?
On recognizing when someone's running a pattern on you, and what to do with what they hand you.
Sep 10
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Dr. Rick Hanson
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How Do You Actually Set a Boundary?
A five-part practical list, from felt knowing to taking real action.
Sep 8
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Dr. Rick Hanson
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